Biggest 2020 Flex?
I Became The Woman of My Dreams
It Took The World As We Knew It Coming To A Screeching Halt In Order For Me To Finally Become The Woman I’ve Always Dreamed Of, But Never Believed I Could Be. Call It Dramatic Irony Or Simply Call It Sad...But, Call It Reality. Color Me Confused As Well Lol But, I’ve Learned That Everything Isn’t Always Going To Happen When Or How You Expect It To. I’ve Also Learned Not To Question Divine Timing Nor Question My Blessings. It’s Something About Being Forced To Be Still And To Actually Sit With Yourself (Y'all Know How I Feel About That) That Causes You To Come To The Fork In The Road And Make A Decision: Are You Going To Make Excuses, Live In Fear And Do More Or Less The Same That You’ve Always Been Doing...Or Will You Take A Leap Of Faith, Trust Yourself, And Finally Step Into Yourself? I’ll Take The Road Less Traveled For $1000, Alex.
2020 Has Found Me At My Most Confident And Comfortable In My Femininity. I’ve Always Struggled With Social Anxiety, Been Insecure, And Unsure Of Myself...Truly Faking It Until I Made It. However , Last Year I Finally Chose Myself. I Chose Confidence, I Chose Risk, I Chose Stepping Up And Stepping Out, I Chose Using My Voice And Letting It Be Heard, I Chose To Live In My Truth And Showcase My Soul And Personality To The World. As Long As It Feeds My Spirit, That’s All That Matters.
We All Have Struggled With Confidence And Insecurity At One Time Or Another In Our Lives. We’re Human, After All. Building Confidence Is Absolutely Not Easy, But It’s A Bridge We All Must Cross. As Someone Who’s Taken 26 Years To Cross Over Into The Realm Of Self Absurdity, There Are Steps That You Can Take To Step Into Your Confidence And Become The Woman Of Your Dreams.
If You Are Looking For Some Tips To Boost Your Confidence, Here Are Some Of My Personal Favorites:
1. Take Care Of Yourself (Self-love Is The Best Love)
We Have To Understand That In Order To Help Others, We First Have To Help Ourselves. It Is Not Our Responsibility To Be Martyrs Nor Should You Have Any Intention Of Becoming One. As Women, It’s Unbelievably Easy To Become Wrapped Up In Caring For Others And Neglecting Ourselves. Trust Me, As Someone Who Is A Natural Nurturer And Giver Who Used To Be Prone To Co-dependent Relationships, I Know All Too Well About Investing In Other’s Lives In Order To Escape Or Avoid My Own. However, Confident Women Understand That Scheduling Time For Themselves Is Absolutely Non-negotiable.
2. Know Your Worth
In Order To Be Better, You Have To Know Your Worth. Knowing Your Worth Gives You An Idea Of How You Deserve To Be Treated And Helps You Recognize The Signs When Other People Or So Called Friends Are Exploiting And Taking Advantage Of You. Again, I Know About That All Too Well. I Can’t Tell You How Many Times I’ve Allowed Myself To Be Used, Exploited, And Drained Financially, Mentally, & Spiritually By People. All Of Which Could Have Been Avoided Had I Simply Valued Myself More And Understood That I’m Worth Being Valued And Treated With Respect And Reciprocity.
3. Friendship Is Essential To The Soul
We Live In The Age Of Social Media, Which Can Often Lead To Fake, Fickle, & Fleeting Friendships. Social Media Also Sometimes Spreads Messages That We Don’t Need Friends And It’s Better To Be Alone. I’m Here To Tell You That While It's Absolutely Necessary To Be Comfortable Being Alone And Enjoying Your Own Solitary, You Absolutely Need Other People In Your Corner. A Confident Woman Understands The Importance Of Meaningful Interactions And Speaking Positively Over Herself And The People Who Matter Most.
Value Your Relationships With Those In Your Corner Who Respect And Love The Real You. Appreciate Those Friends And Be Grateful For Their Presence In Your Life. I Refer To My Best Friends/Close Friends As My Core. These Are The Friends I Absolutely Love And Who Love Me Back. They’re The Ones Who See And Know The Real Me. They Know My Fears, My Dreams, My Flaws, & My Strengths. They Love Me, Keep Me In Check, Motivate Me, Support Me, And Pour Into Me Only Asking That I Love Them Wholeheartedly In Return.
4. Savor Being In Your Own Skin
You Can Be Who You Truly Are And Express Yourself And Your Uniqueness In Every Facet Of Your Life. A Confident Woman Embraces Every Facet Of Herself And Her Uniqueness. Music, Fashion, Food, Personality Should Always Highlight Your Individuality. Remember, In The Wise Words Of Auntie Iyanla Vanzant, “Comparison Is An Act Of Violence Against The Self.” Embrace Yourself Wholly And Don’t Worry About Impressing Others, Embrace The Flaws And Perfections Of You And Don’t Get Caught In The Trap Of Comparing Yourself And Your Life To Others.
5. Celebrate Being Present & Accounted For Every. Single. Day
If Recent Times Have Taught Us Anything, It’s That Life Can Truly Change And Halt At The Drop Of A Dime. There’s No Time To Be Living In The Past, Nor Ignoring The Present To Focus Solely On The Future...Because A Future Is Not Promised. Celebrate Your Life!! Be Happy That You Exist And Make Your Existence Count.
To Become Our Best Selves, We Must Spend Every Day Living Life To The Fullest. Whether That Means Trying New Things, Seeing The World, Or Walking In Our Purpose...A Confident Woman Takes Nothing For Granted And Is So Reflected In The Way She Chooses To Show Up In Life. In The Wise Words Of Our Favorite Science Teacher, “Get Out There And Take Chances, Make Mistakes, & Get Messy!”
